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[erastes]

And some NICE news.

Two lovely reviews for Standish

One from the new (and much needed) Rainbow Reviews, where it gets Four Stars.

And a nice one on Amazon too. I don't normally point out Amazon reviews because, well, everyone gets them - but this one (the top one by Shelly Hart) although you won't recognise the name is from an author whose work I admire very greatly and the fact that she liked Standish makes my toes curl in squeeness. I'm such a fangirl.

I took my dad to word today and got an Enduring Power of Attorney signed. I felt horrible about doing it (I've seen so many cases of King Lear Syndrome - where the children get an EPA and then shove parent into home and proceed to spend all their money) but to be honest, it's a relief to have it done. At least I know I CAN deal with his bank and pension and stuff if necessary because he does get confused.

The laws change in October which will make them more difficult to get - you have to go through the courts which will be time consuming and expensive, so if you DO have a failing parent - Get one done NOW. My firm advises that everyone - hale and hearty or not - should have them done and they have a point, if I went into a coma tomorrow - who the hell would sort my life out? No-one! eek! But then - would I care? A Living Will might be a good idea - at least the cats would be sympathetically looked after...

Started positively, ended in gloom and doom!

Comments

[mylodon.livejournal.com]

You are very wise doing this - I ended up being my Mum's reciever because her powers diminished so very quickly we couldn't do the Power of Attorney bit. It worked fine in the end but it's a time consuming and sometimes distressing process. I think you just have to be as pragmatic as possible - as long as your name's not Goneril.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thanks, that makes me feel better. To be honest, he's just about on the cusp, I wonder if another firm other than mine would have allowed him to sign it, but it's done now, and I don't have to do anything unless needed.

*pushes the stupid guilt away*

Cordelia

[mylodon.livejournal.com]

Tell the guilt to get lost. I know that's hard, but it has to be done - this is a matter of practicality and making sure that he's well looked after. Actually I was reassured by all the safeguards in the Public Guardianship Office procedures - yearly accounts to be presented with evidence for everything, visits from their representative - to winkle out the Regan's.

*has an awful thought* I have three daughters....

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Chortles. Just don't go asking them who loves you most!

What made me laugh is that IF he becomes mentally incompetent, I have to register the EPA with the court of protection.

and

I have to issue a notice to Dad telling him I'm doing that.

*headdesk*

English law - what an arse.

[annebrooke.livejournal.com]

Congrats, Erastes! Very well deserved. And hugs about your father.

A
xxx

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thanks Anne,

I think I can whisper it here off the main thread but it was Marion Husband...

squee!!

[nagasvoice.livejournal.com]

Great reviews, congrats!
And I am glad to hear you're taking steps to make sure your dad is well cared for.

[clarediva.livejournal.com]

Congratulations on the reviews - well deserved!

Sorry to sidle in here, we haven't talked much before, but the EPA drew my attention. I just wanted to say that my mother and stepfather approached *me* recently with the forms - they've seen their own parents' health deteriorate very rapidly, and wanted to be sure that they are settled, and also so that Hubby and I have something in place well in time (hoping that its need is a long way off).

So many people don't like to face up to these things, like making a will. And then it can get too late, and a distressing time is made even more so because you're frustrated legally in dealing with a parent's or spouses's affairs. Anyway, that's my lay opinion ^__^

Have a good day!

[rwday.livejournal.com]

Ah. This is the EPA. Got it. They're Durable Powers of Attorney here. I'm sure it wasn't an easy decision, but necessary, definitely. You know you're not going to take advantage of your dad, and you having the PoA will help keep other people from taking advantage of him. Everybody comes out ahead here.

*hugs*