Sunday round up

[erastes]

Thank you to all that have sent cards, It's very kind of you at what is proving to be a difficult first anniversary.  My online friends are kind.  I've spent the day with Dad today decorating a tree. We ummed and ahhed about doing the decorating thing, but Christmas was a very important time to mother, and although I hate to use the cliche "she wouldn't have liked that" or whatever, I know for certain that she'd not want us to ignore Christmas for her sake. It brings her closer, in a way, too. Every piece of tinsel, every ball, every decoration had a very sweet memory.

As for the EPPIE award slip up I was pleased that they changed the K list after I emailed them. Simply having a plagiarised book on the list at all gives a completely wrong impression to any author, that it's All Right to copy another's words, copyright expired or not. *stern face* Nuff said.

I've past the half way point in "Junction X" and it's all downhill now to the ending - still not sure how long the book will be - shorter than the other two, that's for sure - about 70K perhaps. It's almost impossible to tell right now as I have no fixed plan other than knowing how it ends.

Standish is out of stock on Amazon UK. At least this time I could tell how many I sold as there were four yesterday. Not going to be able to give up my day job any time soon, am I?  *laughs *

Cranford!  *sniffling*  what a wonderful series its been... *sniffles more*

Comments

[crawling-angel.livejournal.com]

There you are! *clings in Cranford no-moreness*

I'll read your update now...just had to bloody hug you!

[crawling-angel.livejournal.com]

Methinx I need Standish too. But if Amazon is being a twat...

[erastes.livejournal.com]

aw thanks!

*hugs back*

[anderyn.livejournal.com]

It's very odd, isn't it?

I don't have my father, either, although I mourned for him long before he actually died, so I never felt this way about him. But with my mother... it's not really Christmas.

Memories

[naturalfractual.livejournal.com]

So sorry about you not having your Mom still with you.

I am on my way to FLorida tomorrow to spend three weeks with my mother and my brothers down there.

My Mom is 78 and doing well. I want to build as many memories as I can, because to deny our mortality is stupid. My brothers seem to think she can go on forever. SHe and I have sat down and actually discussed what to do when she is gone, what she wants for her funeral, etc.

She says that sharing this with me gives her comfort and she knows that I will handle her estate as she wants it to be.

Cherish your memories and the legacy you have and enjoy your Holidays and life. It is short and precious and to do these things will do her memory honor.

Blessings and Happy Holidays, whatever your path.

Re: Memories

[erastes.livejournal.com]

I think you are very sensible. Make the most of now. You may be lucky and many years, but cherish the ones you have. My mother did that with me too, and I know I did what she wanted, but I'd give anything for one more year...

Thank you - have a great holiday!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

We are going to make our new traditions, but there will still be a missing place.

*hug*

[crawling-angel.livejournal.com]

It's the opposite with me. Dad went first when I was 15...but Mother...cuz I had time to 'prepare' *nods* I think things were made 'easier'

Re: Memories

[crawling-angel.livejournal.com]

*cuddles again* I still feel her with me...I hope you do.

[anderyn.livejournal.com]

Mmmm. I understand. I was like that with my Dad -- he had had a stroke twenty years before his death, so he was a quadriplegic for those twenty years, nearly unable to communicate, so his death -- prepared for and actually in some ways a blessing for him, I think.

My mother, though, while I knew that the operation could have killed her, the several weeks between it and her death gave me false hope that she'd beaten it again. So I was not ready.

[anderyn.livejournal.com]

*hugs back*

It's not as though she was HERE, you understand -- we were never together at Christmas, but still... I called her... we talked... it was the fact that I *could* more than anything....
But new traditions are good.

[crawling-angel.livejournal.com]

That's so sad to live like that for so long...but you still had him. I was so unprepare for Dad going... I see ppl like that in my line of work and just can't comprehend it all... If I knew you better, I'd say more.

Yes, Mum was taken by something I never thought would touch her.

*hugs*

[adventurat.livejournal.com]

The first Christmas without my brother (who died a month before it) was really weird and awkward, because we all wanted to enjoy it, but the sense of him being missing, and the awareness that we were at the beginning of a new era that none of us wanted, lay over everything.

*hugs*

[enolabloodygay.livejournal.com]

Been thinking about you a lot in the last couple of weeks, knowing how bitter-sweet Christmas will be for you this year. You are so right to continue with all the traditions your Mum loved - not to do them would be to deny her existence.

If it's any consolation, I was talking to the kids the other night and they reckon their best New Year's Eve was when A**** J*****-R***** (you know their nickname for you but am not going to embarrass you by putting it out worldwide)was with us on the Millenium evening and we had traditional games and wore daft hats and generally laughed like drains. That was something you shared with us from your family life - they never met your mum, but through you, they shared some of the traditions she upheld and they loved them. Her memory lives on, in small ways as well as large ones.

One day, my kids will also have an evening like that with their kids and it will be All Your Fault and that's a great legacy from your mum. Be proud of her and of your ability to share her with us.

Thank you.

Love and xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

[kethlenda.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

Feel free to email me your snail addy. candacis@gmail.com

[annebrooke.livejournal.com]

Ooh, yes, Cranford was marvellous - I cried like a baby - so many times!!

A
xxx

[aunty_marion]

*hugs*

Have a good Christisn'tspringhereyetmas, anyway. My mum's 83 now, and every year I think "This could be the last one..."

[alex-beecroft.livejournal.com]

I hope you have a better Christmas than you expect, but it does sound as though it's going to be hard. Fortunately for me, my mum just came out of hospital after a narrow escape last month, so hopefully it's not something I'll have to deal with this year. I guess, yes, she wouldn't have wanted you to be unhappy if you can help it.

Cranford was such fun! I hope it's coming out on DVD soon :)