Past it at last

[erastes]

I'm staring at that heading and now I don't know whether it should be "passed it at last". I'm referring to my mother's death anniversary, so perhaps either is actually correct?

Anyway, thanks to the people who mailed me with kind thoughts, it is always astounding to me that some people are kind enough to do such small kindnesses.

Yesterday dad and I went to a very mad and very full Sainsbury's and filled up a trolley with goodies. Probably a lot more "ready to roast" foods in it than mother would have ever used, but I simply don't have the time she had. But we have some turkey, and duck, and beef and all sorts of delicious things.

But I have to apologise to some on my flist: I never posted those Christmas cards that I promised people - and I know that you've all send me yours. I feel bad about that, and I can only say sorry. I suck. But thank you, all. The very least I can do is try and send something out in the New Year.

I also owe a lot of copies of Standish to competition winners, but I hope everyone will give me allowances for a very bad year. I'll try better in 2008. I promise! :)

Lucius is HOME. I don't think I even noted that he'd gone missing again, because I was so embarrassed about having to tell you that he'd disappeared a second time. This time he was away for TWO WEEKS(!!!!) and then suddenly wandered back in, starving hungry and with really bitten up (by something) ears as if he'd never been away. He's given me one of the best presents I could have asked for, as I really didn't think that he'd be back again, and I can't imagine where he's been for two weeks, or where he got those injuries. Severus was actually quite angry that he'd returned and was quite spiteful for a day or two. Perhaps he's as anti The Prodigal Son parable as I am. However Lucius has shown no interest in going out except to relieve himself, so that's (excuse the pun) a relief.

To Everyone, A Very Merry Christmas, a very Happy New Year - or a very happy holiday of your faith that you celebrate. I hope that 2008 is as hopeful and rosy for you as I hope that it will be for me. Hope you like the icon, btw - I rather like to think of Rafe and Ambrose looking out at the snow, with a glass of wine in their hands and hoping that 1823 will be a good year for them.

Comments

[leni-jess.livejournal.com]

Not sure where to start.

Grief can't be set aside, but it can be softened. Knowing people feel with you helps. I miss my mother, but remembering what people said and did at the time does help. Maybe for you too.

As for Lucius - horrible little pig! - please don't hesitate to tell us when you're worried about him. He's a wanderer (and it doesn't sound as if hard experience is going to cure him). I'm sorry you've been distressed about him, and felt as if you couldn't say so. It's probably too late, but could you shut the door on him?

Have a happy Christmas! (and forgive the typos; I can't see this at all well.)

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Yes, this year has been hard - I feel it will only improve now. I can't have her back, much as i wish it. Thanks!

And yes, he's a monster, but he's showing no interest in going out now, at least! I don't like to shut him in - it means the other two can't go out either, and he obviously knows where he lives - I just hope that he wants to stay put!

Merry Christmas to you too, love

xxx

[logophilos.livejournal.com]

The first year is the hardest. The first anniversary is horrible. Well done for getting through it with your head held high.

Lucius needs a spanking, a collar and a leash. Your very own BDSM cat!

May all your turkeys be bright and I hope your Xmas is a good one with your Dad. 2008 will be glorious.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thanks hun, it has been hard, but friends like you have helped a lot.

Right this minute, Lucius is curled up in a carrier bad with a butter wouldn't melt face on...

Hope you have a nice (cool) Christmas!

[asphodeline.livejournal.com]

I'm trying hard not to do the teacher thing and say which was right and which not!!!!

It's never going to be easy as each anniversary goes by but hopefully they become easier to deal with.

I suck too because I have things that needed to be posted and they haven't been - New Year gifts and cards this year I think! I did mean you to have something to open even if it was the usual chocolate. Anyway, thinking of you both and I really hope 2008 is the year I finally get off my **** and come and visit.

Is Lucius neutered???? If not, it should help. If he is then he's just a naughty stop-out!

Have a peaceful and restful festivey thing and a huge number of fun things to look forward to in 2008 :)

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Wouldn't both be? "I passed the anniversary with a few tears" or "I got past it, surprisingly well."?

I just never posted anything, I suck too.

Yes, he is neutered. I wonder if he did get catnapped, or something as he's hardly stuck his nose outside since coming back!!

Thanks hun, I hope I can get something published in 2008! I missed a year!

[asphodeline.livejournal.com]

Lol, yes. ok, I'll allow you the "got" !!

Poor puss, he just needs lots of love and hugs :)

[ejab62.livejournal.com]

You forgot to send out the cards. So what? It's your first Christmas without your mother so it only makes sense that your thoughts are else where.
It will be hard at times, I'm sure, but it is good to read that the two of you *are* trying to make an effort to enjoy yourselves the best you can. There probably be some tears; share them. Talk about wonderful memories you both have of her. It doesn't take away the pain but hopefully it gets you both smiling a bit. Plus that kind of memories are the best ones to have and share!
I'll shut up now.

So happy Lucius is home! Have been wondering about that. Is he 'fixed'? That could perhaps help a bit?

I hope you have a wonderful, uplifting, creative, warm 2008 filled with all the love you'll want and need!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thanks hun, I hope you have a good year, too. And yes, he is fixed, but it doesn't seem to matter to him!

[crawling-angel.livejournal.com]

Well done you for getting your arse over the first hurdle. (I know what it's like, believe me.) I'm sure the pussies will give you lots of cuddles over Christmas...even naughty Lucius who seemed to know he was needed at home.

Have a break and recharge those smut batteries ;)

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thanks hun - I hope I can get lots of writing done in 2008, 2007 was a bit lazy. Have a great holiday!

[crawling-angel.livejournal.com]

That's both of us then. My arse is lazy most of the time. Work is so exhausting that I just feel the need to veg on my days off...but I am trying to harness the 'urge' to vent.

[thescarletwoman.livejournal.com]

♥ I'm just glad to hear you're doing alright. Cards are cards and can be sent at anytime or not at all. Hearing that you're doing alright is better than receiving a sheet of paper in the mail.

It is the first year that's the hardest.

Also glad to hear that Lucius made it home alright. Silly little thing!

♥ You just take care of you. That's the most important thing.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you - it's online friends like you that really keep me going, too. Thank you.

Have a warm and safe and happy holidays.

xxx

[semioticwarrior.livejournal.com]

Sending you best wishes and warmest fuzzies.

And naughty boy, Lucius! Glad he's back, though.

And love the icon. (Does that mean they Rafe & Ambrose ended up together ? EEEE! Or are you still not telling?)

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you! And back at you!

He's a very naughty boy. Let's hope he stays put now.

Thanks! And well, it's up to the reader, really. I know what I believe, but I have friends who think the opposite.

:)

[catherineldf.livejournal.com]

Same to you! Hugs!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thanks Catherine!

xxx

[mylodon.livejournal.com]

Merry Christmas to you dear - have sent a card and little doo-dad - hope it arrived safely.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

It arrived today! Thank you so much!!

xxx

[dea-liberty.livejournal.com]

♥

And I'm glad the kitty has wandered back. It's so horrible when pets disappear. Definitely a good Christmas gift.

On that note, I really hope you have a wonderful Christmas, honey!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you! And a happy Christmas to you!

xxx

[mongrelheart.livejournal.com]

Happy Christmas & Merry New Year!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you! And the same back at you!

:)

xxx

[aunty_marion]

Belated Merry Christisn'tspringhereyetmas and Happy New Year to you and yours!

Did you ever get Lucius chipped and collared/tagged? If not - do it for his Christmas present, the dirty little stop-out. *g*

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Happy New year hun, welcome back!

He's chipped but I haven't found him a proper safety collar yet - will get him one from Pets at Home this week. Although after his last sojourn he shows NO interest in stepping out except for a quick wee

Happy New Year

[dubaiyan.livejournal.com]

Was halfway around the globe offline but thinking of you. Merry 2008, the oyster scene from Spartacus is indeed fabulous, Sean Bean should totally play Vimes, BAD LUCIUS! BAD! etc.

Re: Happy New Year

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Aw thank you darling! I must have missed the half way round the world thing! Have a good time?

xxx