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[erastes]

Went to order flowers today, just a small bouquet for the coffin/hearse. it's a horrible waste of money, really, as they get thrown away after a day or so - although i wonder if i'd be allowed to bring them back? I ordered blue, becasue her favourtie colour was blue and irises and hydrangeas in particular because all her life she tried to get her hydrangeas to go blue and they never ever would.

I missed Torchwood, due to the fact I can't find the remote control and the bloody digi box doesn't seem to respond to me jabbing at it with an angry finger so I'll have to wait until tomorrow. *paces*

SO DO NOT SPOIL ME.

I am now a laptop owner. It's a bittersweet acquisition, as it is my mother's. But Dad said that he had no idea how even to turn it on, so it would be better off with me. Trouble is, it's warm and The Snucius want to sit on it.

cryptic: baseball anthology - anyone know the deadline? I've lost it.

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[cbpotts.livejournal.com]

You can get the flowers back: let the funeral director or whomever know that you're going to use them for a memorial project (Hydrageneas dry beautifully) and they'll help you make it happen.

We brought home two bowers of roses from my dad for this reason -- the funeral home is great. YOu have to give the powers that be a head up.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you! I'll certainly try that, I think!

[anderyn.livejournal.com]

We usually did get to bring flowers/plant arrangements home (but we're in the States, so it might be different for you). I still have this large tree thing that is the only survivor of a potted arrangement some friends sent to my Dad's funeral.

Other than that, I've seen blue hydrageneas -- one of my ex-coworkers was a gardener, and she managed with some chemical or other in the plant food around the plant -- it was quite eerie.

And, other than THAT, I finally got a copy in my hot wittle hands of "Standish". I have read the first several chapters and skimmed through the ending (hey, what can I say? I love knowing the end before I begin a book). Man, oh man, what a wonderful bunch of characters you've created. Yeah, I'll probably skip some of the sex when it gets too smutty for me but Rafe and Ambrose have my heart already. (And I think I found a typo, but only one!)

*muses* If I sent you some money to cover postage, could I get you to send me a stick in book label with a signature? I like having books signed, particularly when I know the authors.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

You are hopeless, I always remember you as the person who always reads the ending first.

I'm designing a bookplate for that very purpose, so I'll be more than happy to do so, and no postage needed hun, it;ll cost next to nothing to do. email me your snail mail addy and i'll sort it out. I'm very happy you like my boys, though, they will always have a place in my heart.

And anyway, I wrote you a "20 years later" drabble last year, so you always knew they'd be together.

*G*

[annephoenix.livejournal.com]

I'm designing a bookplate for that very purpose,

Ooooooooh.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Horribly conceited of me, I know...

However you live in the UK, if you want me to actualy sign the book instead, just holla.

[annephoenix.livejournal.com]

Why not - that would be cool! Just let me finish it first *grin* I always read about four books at the same time!

It's not conceit, it's appreciation of your own value ;).

[valarltd.livejournal.com]

blue hydrangeas are caused by acidic soil.
Pink by aklai.

And seconding (or thirding) bringing the flowers home. My dad still has peace lillies from my grandmother's funeral 5 years ago.

[pfodge.livejournal.com]

You can ask the funeral director to send some of the flower arrangement to the local nursing homes. When I was the receptionist for one of our local nursing facility they would come in occasionally. The activities department would take them apart and put the flowers at the nursing stations and common areas so the residents could enjoy them. Just a thought. Patty

[erastes.livejournal.com]

That's an excellent idea. Hopefully not one that will arise as I've asked for No Flowers - donations to animal charties, but there's always one!

Thank you

[faithfulreader.livejournal.com]

I've heard so much about this 'Torchwood' :) Can you possibly explain to me what's so special about it?

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Well, firstly it has - as the main character - a pan-sexual 50th century male called Jack Harkness who "shags anything as long as it's gorgeous enough"

Secondly it's Dr Who for grownups, more gore, more adult

Great characters, great monsters, great sets.

Did I mention the gay snogging?
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[faithfulreader.livejournal.com]

Fuck! I want this Torchwood thing right fucking now!

PS. How would you ask your sister's apparently straight hubby to download something gay for you?

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Well, it's not all gay, there's a gay snog in the first epi, and nothing then (other than implication) until the last epi, so you can just tell him that it's a Doctor Who spin off (true) and full of monsters and aliens (true) and there's het and lesbian sex in it (true) which he might enjoy....

*G*

[annephoenix.livejournal.com]

Shoudln't you be inaugurating your new laptop by downloading Torchwood? *lol* ... I can't spoil you because I have to wait for my boy to come home from work before I'm allowed to watch it! Finally started Standish though - gods to be sitting close to that much brains. Good writing always makes me feel a bit stupid, especially good research, because it makes me aware of how many things I *don't* know!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

I may have two superduper computers now, but no broadband, I started a download for torchwood, just for a giggle, and it was going to take 85 hours....

hmmmm. not an option. I can wait until tomorrow!!!

And what a nice thing to say, I'm very happy you are enjoying it, though, I've been terrified of my flist reading it, but seems I was daft to worry!

xxx

[julesjones]

When my mother-in-law died two years ago (in unpleasantly similar circumstances), we were actively encouraged by the undertaker and crematorium to take the wreaths and flowers home with us. Check with the undertaker beforehand what needs to be done, but I imagine there shouldn't be a problem.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you, hun. I mean, after all, they are our flowers! And it's a woodland, so they don't encourage cut flowers there anywhere, does seem a shame to waste them.

Sorry to hear about your MIL, too.

*hug*

[leni-jess.livejournal.com]

Before my mother's funeral I asked the funeral director to have the yellow and white flowers delivered to the nursing home she'd been in (they offered, in fact, saying that otherwise they'd just be thrown away at the crematorium); they took them round afterwards. I know the nursing staff distribute them around the various sitting rooms. (Finding a vase for flowers, sent by friends, when we visited was always a comedy routine.) I tried the 'no flowers, please; donate to X' route - and later got a cheque for the nursing home from one family, which I happily delivered.

If I had a Snucius, they'd be camped on the mouse pad, as the warm air flows out just there - one of the perils of being a left-hander for whom notebooks are not designed.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

I'm such an inexperienced person at all this... thanks - I'll definitely do something like that.

And stupid not to create left handed laptops!

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

Most of the time when I use my laptop I use the touchpad and the bottons around it, so I don't use mouse... also because, most of the time I use the laptop in bed, with it on my knees, so it is a little difficult to use a mouse! another option is to use an optical mouse, so you can use the mouse wherever you want and not necessary on the left of the screen...

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

My father was atheist, so, before died, he ask me to have a laical funeral: I arranged with some friends to have a street funeral and the only flowers were red roses on his coffin. We aspected to have very few people, but there was hunderd of people, so the police had to close the street. In that moment I really understood how much love my father had given to the others. At the end we took the roses and gave them to a local church, because his priest accepted to go out and give a benedction to my dad coffin (my mother wanted it, because she was grown like catholic).

[erastes.livejournal.com]

My mother was catholic, but she hadn't practised for a long long time, and she specifically asked me not to give her a catholic funeral, even though she had seen the priest a week or so before.

I don't think there will be many people there, but she was a teacher, and I like to think that her influence is spread over a huge area, with all the children she ever taught.

[elisa-rolle.livejournal.com]

My concern before the funeral was that nobody came in, cause in Italy, laical funeral are a rarity. For this reason we arranged to have it in front of a club in the quarter we lived. But that day I saw people I hadn't seen in years, and also peolple I had never seen, co-workes and friends of my fathers, my schoolmates, even if the kids I gave lessons (I was 18 years old and gave lessons to 14 years old). Only two people told me I was wrong to make a laical ceremony, but I knew I was right, cause my father wanted it.

[janedavitt.livejournal.com]

I posted a link to Torchwood on my LJ if that helps :;hugs::

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you sweetie, but without broadband it would take about 80 hours to download, and as it's on tomorrow... :)

Thank you, though!

xxx

[janedavitt.livejournal.com]

Ah. Yes, that would be the long way around ::g::

[mysid.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry about your mother, Sweetie. Hugs to you in this difficult time. Tell the Snucius to snuggle you for me.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thank you darling. They are definitely what the doctor ordered, as they do cuddles on request. Thank Glod.

xxx

[gweneiriol.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Thanks hun

xxx

[ejab62.livejournal.com]

Yep, you can ask for whatever you want to take back with you, really. At least that have been my experiences every single time.

(((HUGS)))

[erastes.livejournal.com]

thanks hun
xxx

[mychael-black2.livejournal.com]

This is what I get for getting way behind on LJ.

I'm so sorry about your mom, hun. *hugs tight*

[babyotto.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry to hear about your mother.