Le Sigh

[erastes]

Why are straight women so obsessed with gay sex?

http://gawker.com/5615899/why-are-straight-women-so-obsessed-with-gay-sex

Please. Don’t. I may cry. Apparently, I’m not only straight (*laughs uproariously*) but am also married!

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[pepperlandgirl4.livejournal.com]

All I can hear is Murray from Flight of the Conchords say "That's terrible."

[erastes.livejournal.com]

*snorts* that works perfectly

[beckyblack]

but am also married!

Is it too late to send a gift? ;-)

Strewth, though it's sort of positive in the end it doesn't half parade the cliches out to get there. Slash explained using Kirk and Spock (and I bet they aren't thinking the Pike and Quinto versions.) Romance novels with Fabio on the cover. (Hint, people, check some modern romance novels in bookshops selling new books, not the ones in that box you inherited from your granny.) And I'm personally not a suburban lady, thanks very much. Well, I am a lady.

Once again journalism with every single original thought completely extracted before publication.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

What is depressing is that I thought that the gay media would be more positive than the straight media. I told Ms Wilson that the angle "what are these crayzee straights doing with our gay porn?" had been done to death, but apparently that didn't sink in, and she went down the same old path.

[vashtan.livejournal.com]

That's not journalism, that's an opinion piece ripped from an article (or: editorial). "Journalism" at least makes an attempt to research. And writing about somebody without checking the facts and giving the person opportunity to comment - actually opens you up to libel claims.

Erastes, you do have grounds for a libel case right here, if you want it. (I had libel training today... go figure).

Seems like most "journalists" apply the lazy standards of bloggers these days. I'm flabbergasted.

[markprobst.livejournal.com]

Well you know in showbiz they say you know you've made it when the gay rumors start. I don't suppose the reverse is true.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

"Author inned by major gay magazine."

It's not really man bites dog, is it?

[anderyn.livejournal.com]

Oh my. I'm so happy to see reading comprehension is so high on Gawker.

I am a bit surprised by the accompanying pictures to the Out! article, though. Somehow I'd always thought of you as tall and willowy, like our boy Lucius. :-)

I'd love to discuss some of the article with you, if/when you're up for it.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

I admit to not having read it, but please - discuss away!

[venivincere]

I'm shattered, darling. What, no announcement?

[erastes.livejournal.com]

I know. I'm gutted.

All those toasters I missed out on.

[sinick.livejournal.com]

I had to log in and gently (for me) introduce him to some clues.

[themostepotente.livejournal.com]

You are my hero, Sin <3

but we thought you were a gay man!

[vabvox.livejournal.com]

so you are saying that the writer of the article for a major print publication outright lied about you? that you said specifically that you were a gay man--oh wait, you're only a gay man on your profile. now you are a bisexual woman. you said specifically that you were a bisexual and the writer deliberately altered the audio tape for the editors and then printed a lie? that's horrifying. and almost impossible to believe. perhaps you should go through all your various pages and change your bio to match who you really are. (and while you are at it, change your photo as well.)most writers would be thrilled at having a piece written about them in a major publication. i certainly hope this is not about gay men getting back at you for all that misrepresentation of their relationships!

Re: but we thought you were a gay man!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

*dies laughing*

[aunty_marion]

You're not straight. You're pleasantly rounded... *runs vv fast*

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Pleasantly equals huge...I am working on it...

[spindriftdancer.livejournal.com]

But you have to admit, the photographer did a good job. The one of you and Alex laughing is very good.

[m-barnette.livejournal.com]

Oh for the love of little green apples...

It's so wonderful reading such boneheaded generalizations pawned off as 'journalism', though I have to say a lot of the responses are spot on regarding said boneheadedness.

Oh, and since I missed it somehow, congratulations on your marriage. I'm sure it was just an oversight on your part that you never mentioned this to your LJ readers.

*mutters about idiots... err journalists*

[erastes.livejournal.com]

i suppose i am evil for not mentioning that i was married to a man for six months in 1989...

[m-barnette.livejournal.com]

Oh my goodness! What a scandal. LOL

Seriously I'm really getting tired of reading the 'by women, for women' bit. While that might be true some of the time, it is not true all of the time.

Plus I know for a fact the ladies writing m/m have a lot of male readers. I see men buying books written by our female authors at Shadowfire Press all the time so that old saw needs to be laid to rest.

[themostepotente.livejournal.com]

Okay, the guy that wrote this is like the biggest ass-clown ever. So, if you write m/m erotica you're labelled as 'horny?' WTFF?!?!

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Irredeemably so. Please pass the powdered lead.

[essayel.livejournal.com]

There's so much so wrong with that article. What a pillock.

*tries to imagine Erastes in a pinny fetching slippers - fails*

[jl_merrow]

My regards to your husband! ;)

I'm sure you were equally chuffed to see your meticulously researched historicals described as "dirty stories starring men sticking it to other men"...

[iulia_linnea.livejournal.com]

Inned and and pinned in the same article—go, you! *rolls eyes*

[cerisaye.livejournal.com]

I am sad your fears about the article have been confirmed. Why do they feel so threatened by women writing m/m that they resort to outright lies and misrepresentation?

[spindriftdancer.livejournal.com]

Because of this:


They're 'offended'...

[cerisaye.livejournal.com]

Brilliant!

[dharma-slut.livejournal.com]

Actually, not. The anger is rooted in very real things. I don't think it's much warranted here, but you cannot blame GLBT people for being on the raw.

[golden-bastet.livejournal.com]

LOL - I actually know Cintra Wilson (although it's been *years* since I last saw her, and I doubt she'd remember me).

Disappointing, though - I would've thought she'd be more accurate in her writing.

[cassiopaya.livejournal.com]

Brian Moylan, prepare your cheek for my slap. No, not that cheek, pull your pants back up. ::glare::

[beckyblack]

Why is it "obsessed" by the way? As opposed to say "interested". Obsessed sounds a bit unhealthy, a bit pathological. Imagine that! Talking about women using terms that imply irrationality! I'm totally shocked!

Oh wait, no I'm not.

[josephine-myles.livejournal.com]

I particularly enjoyed the way m/m writers are described as "horny lady writers" - could they be any more patronising?!

Maybe I'll get myself a t-shirt made with that on... XD

Read the OUT article, and thought that was very interesting. I suppose it's inevitable that they would want to focus on sexuality at the expense of any of the other aspects of your work, but it was great to read about your and Alex's experiences and feelings, as they mirror my own in many ways. Makes me feel a little less weird!

[gaedhal.livejournal.com]

Oy vey -- to coin a phrase.

[lee-rowan.livejournal.com]

If Tom Cruise can sue the National Perspirer for saying he's gay, I should think you could sue these clowns for saying you're het and married. It's as much defamation of character as the reverse, since it's untrue...

The real question is, why are tabloid twits so obsessed with writers' genetalia instead of the quality of the stories?

[dharma-slut.livejournal.com]

Coming late to this party,

I posted a comment to the piece but who knows if it will see the light of day...

What I said was that if I learned one thing from that article it's that any interviewee would be a double-dipped idiot to trust Cintra Wilson.

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Yes, sadly, you are very right. We should have done our research in advance. I'd never heard of her, but then, seeing what has happened since then, Cintra looks like a Good Bloke.

[dharma-slut.livejournal.com]

She fooled you once, shame on her.
But we won't be fooled again.

What totally pissed me off was her mentioning that she'd gotten a ride back to the station. I wanted to be able to go back in time and kick her out of the car-- let her walk.

I'm petty that way.

Have you seen Mrs.giggle's post? I'm afraid it comes down on you a bit for letting yourselves be patsies-- and her reasons for reading are not universal, of course, but she has some excellent points-- and so does one of her commenters.
http://mrsgiggles00.livejournal.com/144892.html?view=754684#t754684

[erastes.livejournal.com]

Oh definitely. Big learning curve.

No, I hadn't seen that - thank you!